Monday, June 13, 2011

Welcome to My New Blog!

Hello everyone! I was blogging on, but decided to switch to Blogger/Blogspot instead. I will still be blogging as usual! If you are a previous subscriber to my site, please re-subscribe on this new blog! Sorry if this is an inconvenience to anyone! For now I plan to stay with this site for a while. So I hope that everyone continue to enjoy my blog! :)

5 Benefits of Synthetic Ponytails

So I can finally fit my hair in a ponytail! Woohoo! There are still a few pieces that are somewhat too short, but the job still gets done! I've been waiting for this moment I will have a lot more styling options! Now that I can do a ponytail, I've been experimenting with synthetic ponytails (aka. phony pony's). So I'll be switching between my natural hair, synthetic ponytails and buns, and synthetic wigs. I probably won't wear my real hair in a ponytail until it grows longer because my ponytail is only like 2 in., so it doesn't look too good to me.  I will try to post some pics soon! Here are 5 benefits of wearing synthetic ponytails (or buns!):

1. It's quick- I love the fact that a synthetic ponytail is a very quick hairstyle. It's something I'd do if I was in a rush and still wanted to look cute.

2. It's Cute- I love the style of synthetic ponytails! They are actually very cute!

3. It's a protective Style- Your hair is put into a bun when you wear your phony pony, so your real hair isn't manipulated as much. That means that it can help you retain length.

4. It's great for a change up- When you get bored of your hair it's a quick, easy style you can do for a change.

5. It's great for growing out hair- If you are like me and have a stubby ponytail this style is a great alternative while you grow your hair out.


1. Make sure to buy ponytails that are similar to your texture and as close to your natural hair color as possible! It looks sloppy when the colors/textures do not mix. It wouldn't look right if I got a bone straight ponytail, while my hair clearly has a lot more texture than that.

2. Make sure to take care of YOUR hair underneath the ponytail. I think a lot of people neglect their real hair when they wear synthetic hair. Make sure you keep your hair moisturized!

3. Do not overdo it with this style! I think doing this style a few times a week is fine, but any more than that is excessive. I say this because not only will the combs cause friction, but tying up the hair in the exact same spot will cause tension and breakage. If you have thin hair then I suggest that you are very cautious with this hairstyle! If you absolutely have to do it more than a few times a week then I'd suggest not putting the ponytail in the same spot every single day. For example, wear a high ponytail for a few days and then switch to a low ponytail for a few days...ect.

I hope this post helps you understand the benefits of synthetic ponytails! :)

Toddler Friendly Hairstyles- French Braided Ponytails & Shirley Temple Curls

When I went to NYC to visit some family, my aunt did a couple of hairstyles on her. The first one is the french braid pigtails. I loved this style! I do not know how to french braid, but I really want to learn! Here is how you do it:

1. Part hair in the center
2. French braid each side
3. Secure each ponytail with an cute barrette, or connect them with one barrette like I did!

my Aunt also did Shirley Temple curls on her. It is a very easy style, and it only requires water. It's something I will probably save for special occasions.  Here is how you do the style:

1. You throughly wet your child's hair with a spray bottle of water
2. You take different sections of hair in your hand, and twist and twist and twist all the way to the end, and then you just let go.
3. You do a bunch of sections throughout the hair, until you have done their entire head


It didn't really hold up in her sleep though. She wore it home on the 7 hr total of flights that day, and by the time we got home it was a frizzy mess. Its something that would probably only last a day.

Tego Calderon on Afro-Latino Pride

Tego Calderon is one of my favorite artists! And he actually grew up in my mom's home town of Loiza, Puerto Rico, which used to be a slave town back in the day. I love his stance on afro-latino pride. I agree that we all need to start being proud of being black Latinos. And I can definitely relate to being in the middle. I also felt rejected by both Latinos (the few I lived around), and the African Americans. I felt like no one could really relate to my culture. But eventually I made friends with mostly African American people, because in the end we do relate to each other in that we are both black. But I can truly say that I am the proudest I have ever been of my natural hair, and that I am a black woman (or at least partially black). I am sure you guys will enjoy this essay! Here it is:

"Just this morning, I was listening to radio host Luisito Vigeroux talking about a movie project that I am working on which co-stars Mayra Santos Febres and he was saying, "Her? She's starring in it?"
Questioning her Black beauty.

I remember, too, when Celia Cruz died, a newscaster, thinking she was being smart, said Celia Cruz wasn't black, she was Cuban. She was pretty even though she's black.

As if there is something wrong with being black, like the two things can't exist simultaneously and be a majestic thing. There is ignorance and stupidity in Puerto Rico and Latin America when it comes to blackness.

In Puerto Rico, Spike Lee's "Malcolm X" was only shown in one theater and unlike all the other movies shown here, there were no subtitles. It's as if they don't want the masses to learn.

But it's not just here - in Puerto Rico - where I experience racism. When I lived in Miami, I was often treated like a second class Boricua. I felt like I was in the middle - Latino kids did not embrace me and African American kids were confused because here I was a black boy who spoke Spanish. But after a while, I felt more embraced by black Americans - as a brother who happens to speak Spanish - than other Latino kids did.

Because I am well known, sometimes I forget the racist ways of the world. But then I travel to places where no one knows Tego Calderón I am reminded.

For instance, when I travel first class, the stewardess will say, "Sir, this is first class," and ask to see ticket. I take my time, put my bags in the overhead, sit, and gingerly give them my ticket, smiling at them. I try not to get stressed anymore, let them stress themselves.

And the thing is that many white Puerto Ricans and Latinos don't get it. They are immune to the subtle ways in which we are demeaned, disrespected. They have white privilege. And I've heard it said that we are on the defensive about race.

Those things happen and it's not because of color, Tego, but because of how you look, how you walk, what you wear, what credit card you have. Then, they spend a couple of days with me, sort of walk in my shoes, and say "Damn negro, you are right."

When I check into hotels and use my American Express they call the credit card company in front of me saying the machine is broken. This happens a lot in U.S. cities but it's not because there is more racism there, it's because they don't know me. When I'm in Latin America, I am known, so it's different. That is not to say that there is less racism. The reality for blacks in Latin America is severe, in Colombia, Venezuela, Peru, Honduras ...

Puerto Rican (and Latin American) blacks are confused because we grow up side by side with non-blacks and we are lulled into believing that things are the same. But we are treated differently.
My parents always celebrated our history. My dad always pointed things out to me. He even left the PIP (Pro-Independence Party) because he always said that los negros and our struggle was never acknowledged.

Maelo (Ismael Rivera) and Tite Curet did their part in educating and calling out the issues. Today, I do my part but I attack the subject of racism directly.

It makes me so happy to see Don Omar call himself el negro and La Sister celebrate her blackness. Now it's in fashion to be black and to be from Loiza. And that is awesome, it makes me so happy. Even if they don't give me credit for starting the pride movement, I know what I did to get it out there.
Young black Latinos have to learn their story. We also need to start our own media, and forums and universities. We are treated like second class citizens. They tell blacks in Latin America that we are better off than U.S. blacks or Africans and that we have it better here, but it's a false sense of being. Because here, it's worse.

We are definitely treated like second class citizens and we are not part of the government or institutions. Take for instance, Jamaica - whites control a Black country.

They have raised us to be ashamed of our blackness. It's in the language too. Take the word denigrate - denigrar - which is to be less than a negro.

In Puerto Rico you get used it and don't see it everyday. It takes a visitor to point out that all the dark skin sisters and brothers are in the service industry.

It's hard in Puerto Rico. There was this Spaniard woman in the elevator of the building where I lived who asked me if I lived there. And poor thing - not only is there one black brother living in the penthouse, but also in the other, lives Tito Trinidad. It gets interesting when we both have our tribes over.

Black Latinos are not respected in Latin America and we will have to get it by defending our rights, much like African Americans struggled in the U.S.

It's hard to find information about our people and history but just like kids research the newest Nintendo game or CD they have to take interest in their story. Be hungry for it.

We need to educate people close to us. I do it one person at a time when language is used and I am offended by it. Sometimes you educate with tenderness, as in the case of my wife, who is not black.
She's learned a lot and is offended when she sees injustices. She gets it. Our children are mixed, but they understand that they are black and what that means. My wife has taught her parents, and siblings, and they, in turn, educate the nephews and nieces. That is how everyone learns.

This is not about rejecting whiteness rather; it's about learning to love our blackness - to love ourselves. We have to say basta ya, it's enough, and find a way to love our blackness. They have confused us - and taught us to hate each other - to self-hate and create divisions on shades and features.

Remember that during slavery, they took the light blacks to work the home, and left the dark ones to work the fields. There is a lot residue of self-hatred.

And each of us has to put a grain in the sand to make it into a movement where we get respect, where we can celebrate our blackness without shame.

It will be difficult but not impossible."